Born 06 August 1945
Died 11 August 2014
Feast of Sts. Clare and Philomena
Funeral Mass 14 August 2014
I accept, O my God, all the torments of this earth bunched together. I
desire them as my portion, but I could never resign myself to being
separated from you for lack of love. Ah, for pityí sake do not permit
this poor soul to go astray; never allow my hope to be deluded. Never
let me be separated from you, and if I am at this moment, unknowingly,
separated from you, thenrescue me this very moment. Enlighten my mind,
O my God, so that I may knowmyself fully and recognize the great love
you have shown me, and allow me to enjoy for all eternity the supreme
beauty of your divine countenance.
O dear Jesus, never let me lose this precious treasure that you are for
me. My Lord and my God, I experience too vividly in my soul
theineffable tenderness that pours forth from your eyes, the love that
you, myonly God, condescend to gaze on this miserable creature.
How can the torment of my heart be placated, the agony of knowing I am
far from you? My soul is well aware of the terrible battle I endured
when you, O my Beloved hid yourself from me! O my most tender Lover,
how clearly is this terrible and frightening image imprinted on my soul!
Who will ever be capable of eliminating or extinguishing the ardent
flames of this fire which burns in my breast for you? Ah, Lord, do not
take pleasure in hiding yourself; you know what confusion and tumult
this causes in all the faculties of my soul and in all my feelings! You
see that my soul cannot bear the cruel torment of this abandonment, for
you have enchanted it too much O infinite Beauty!
You know how anxiously my soul seeks you. This anxiety is no less than
that of your spouse in the sacred Songs; my soul too, like that holy
spouse, wanders in the public streets and in the squares and adjures
the daughters of Jerusalem to tell her where her Beloved is: I adjure
you, O daughters of Jerusalem, if you find my beloved, that you tell
him I am sickwith love. (Song 5:8)
In this state, how well my soul understands what is written in the
Psalms: My spirit fainted! (Ps 77: 4); My soul yearns for your saving
help. (Ps 110:81)
- St. Padre Pio
During the past years and most especially in the final days of Sharonís
life, she spent time to assess the order of her life with the help of
the Blessed Mother who became her spiritual companion and her Lady of
Good Counsel. It was an opportunity for her to set right anything that
may be amiss, by some positive action and virtue on her part.
Sharonís life was a life filled with promise and hope; a spiritual
adventure leading towards spiritual accomplishments. Her life was also
a life of great concern for her children as she watched them grow and
making decisions for themselves, interior pain and suffering and mental
anguish when she and Fred lost their daughter, Sarah, some years
past. In the end and by the grace of God, and only by the grace
of God, did she win the good fight; conquering her own weaknesses with
the help of God.
During times like this as we gather in prayer we, too, are given an opportunity to assess the order of our own lives.
Thomas Jefferson once said,
ďWisdom is knowing what to do
Skill is knowing how to do it
Virtue is doing itĒ
I think we all have the Wisdom of knowing what we ought to do.
I think we all have sufficient skill knowing how to do it.
And by the mercy and grace of God we can have the virtue of overcoming
our own weaknesses and failings if we only ask for his mercy and grace.
This is what we have witnessed and learned with and from Sharon.
We can see what has taken place the past years; those spiritual nudges
from God to make spiritual advancements through the intercession of
Mary, her Heavenly Mother; our Mother.
It is hard to explain in mere human words what we all witnessed but
with our simple faith, we witnessed how she, too, grew in Spiritual
Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding through the mercies of God.
The encyclical, Rich in Mercy (Nov. 30, 1980), of Pope John Paul II, as
well as his prior encyclical, Redeemer of Mankind (March 3, 1979),
establish basic priorities and goals for mankind and human life today.
Pope John Paulís theological reflection brings God and His attitude
toward mankind into the foreground. His reflections are particularly
pertinent to this funeral mass. Using the scriptures as a starting
point for meditating on the experiences of modern life, John Paul leads
us to the central fact of our Christian life Ė the Paschal mysteries of
the suffering, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Sharonís preparation for death, death itself and this Christian funeral
liturgy is also a time for us for restoring our ideals. All of us have
a longing for meaningfulness in our lives. Goals and values we must
have and pursue energetically, otherwise we lose sight of our ultimate
end Ė our life in eternity with God.
This is a time which challenges us right now to face up to our
shortcomings, and provides a new call, a new opportunity to put proper
emphasis on the spiritual dimensions of life through prayer and
It is good that we have this Funeral Liturgy today. It
calls us to conversion, invites us to rely on Godís mercy, and to bear
witness to His Mercy. Let this day, as well as all our days be a great
opportunity and time leading us to conversion in the sense of
re-establishing true priorities in our lives, and particularly the
priority of Godís mercy. In contrast to the impersonal and severe image
of a judge, we wish to follow Jesus who came to reveal and proclaim the
Father of mercy. This is the unique appeal of Jesusí life Ė a
proclamation of the mystery of God as the Father of mercies. Our
Blessed Mother taught this to Sharon and us - for years - through the
messages and through the scriptures at Holy Mass.
An appreciation of Godís mercy will effect changes in our lives as it
did in Sharonís life. Godís mercy will enable us to experience the
profound joy of conversion, a conversion rooted in prayer and virtuous
acts. From this conversion comes a profound spiritual peace.
Now let me speak briefly about PEACE! In the final days and hours of
Sharonís life, I believe a sense of peace came over her in a miraculous
way. Hence, peace came to us. With this peace which I believe was
the presence of our Lord Jesus and the Blessed Mother, one could only
witness her faith being nourished with an abundance of life especially
when she received the Sacrament of the last Anointing bringing
forgiveness; Sacrament of the Holy Eucharist or Viaticum bringing Holy
Food for the journey to heaven; and by providing theApostolic Pardon
and Blessing; removing any obstacles in order to prompt union of her
soul with God in heaven. Tell me, I beg you, what more could God have
done for the salvation of Sharonís immortal soul? What God did for her,
God does for us if we just allow Him.
God does not give peace against our will or in the face of our
resistance. We may resist for many years of our life. It is God who
creates peace, and it is for us to bring together the elements of
longing, of expectancy, of hope which make it possible to receive Godís
peace, to share it with each other, as we are sharing it right now in
the celebration of this liturgy.
As Sharon came to know the Blessed Mother in the past years, Sharon
came to know Godís word and His teachings, which always tell us how to
live in such a way that we will know peace and joy; a peace and joy
that begins here on earth and stretches into eternity where time is no
more. His teachings are always present to us with consolation and with
a challenge. We are all poor and weak and powerless but we are
spiritual millionaires, because Godís own riches and strength and power
are ours for the asking.
It is so easy for us to become discouraged because of our failures,
faults, our weaknesses. Such discouragement is always a sign that we
are unconsciously depending on ourselves rather than on God. If,
indeed, our peace and joy were dependent upon our own accomplishments,
our own strength, we would have good reasons to be discouraged and
fearful, but they do not. Godwants us to ask. But we must be careful
what we ask for. If great material,wealth, power and control over
otherís lives, praise, and flattery Ė if these things are what we seek,
we are unwittingly asking for the stone, the poisonous snake, of which
Christ speaks of in the scripture. If, on the other hand, we ask for
Godís better gifts, His grace, mercy, and peace, He will keep His
promises made to us in the Gospel.
Peace, spiritual peace, is one of the marvelous gifts of grace that is
experienced by Godís people. It is the most marvelous gift received
after years of seeking. Being disposed to Godís marvelous love and
mercy, Sharon experienced this most comforting grace. She became more
serene; a soul at peace with God and with all those around her. It is
definitely a specialblessing from God.
What I have learned in more depth from Sharonís final days and hours,
and death itself, is that this grace must be earned. It
isrecorded in heaven! This may be a surprise to many. With all she did
for her spiritual well-being and all the good she did during her entire
life did not go unnoticed by God. With the many prayers on her behalf
throughout her life from those who loved her and with all the graces
she earned and received brought her spiritual peace in her final
hours. She became a holy soul; a soul of patience,
kindness, courtesy, very considerate, a forgiving soul, and a soul with
a spirit of prayer. Nothing in her past life stands out any more as
does her final hours of life. A peaceful woman; a woman of peace; a
lady filled with God. Her soul became dazzling white; brighter
than the sun and whiterthan snow.
ďLord make me an instrument of your peaceÖĒ so begins the prayer of St.
Francis of Assisi whom St. Padre Pio loved so much. May we bepeaceful
and serene Christians where we will sow love, hope, and faith; where we
will be men and women who will console, will understand, and will be
Being spiritually peaceful or peace-filled people will allow us to go
about doing good as Jesus did, and will bring to others the gift of
I thank God and the Blessed Mother for the graces which were shown through Sharon to her husband, children and to all of us.
We pray as our loving Father receives her soul into eternal life where she is at peace -resting in the hand of God.
I also ask through Sharonís prayers and intercession that we all may be
welcomed into our eternal home in the peace of Christ accompanied by
all the angels and saints.
Homilist: Father Christopher P Myers, SOLT
Alleluia verse John 6:39
Luke 23:33, 39-43